When you plant lettuce, if it does not grow well, you don’t blame the lettuce.
You look for reasons it is not doing well.
It may need [organic] fertilizer, or more water, or less sun.
You never blame the lettuce.
Yet if we have problems with our friends or family, we blame the other person.
But if we know how to take care of them, they will grow well, like the lettuce. Blaming has no positive effect at all, nor does trying to persuade using reason and argument.
That is my experience.
No blame, no reasoning, no argument, just understanding.
If you understand, and you show that you understand, you can love, and the situation will change.
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"If you could give one piece of advice, what would it be?"
“Find the right woman.”
“Did you find the right woman?”
“I thought I had.”
“She gave me the whole ‘I love you but I’m not in love with you’ thing. We’d been married for a long time. Had a house and two kids. She said we needed to try to spend some time apart, which I agreed to because I loved her so much. Next thing I knew, she’d moved in with another man.”
“Do you still love her?”
“Oh no, no, no. That hurt too bad. Though I do still call her on her birthday.”